I love it when I see a Mother and her beautiful daughter out together, holding hands, chatting and laughing as they take a stroll. You can tell by the way the little girl is holding on to her mother and looking into her eyes that she is happy and having fun. Our little ones, especially our daughters, hold us in high esteem. They like to dress like us, talk like us, listen to us and do whatever we do.
Are you a role model for your daughter or are you gonna let her pick a role model from one of the stars on TV or on social media? One thing you should know is that children always look up to somebody who they feel is their hero or respect so much, and if your daughter wants a role model, it might as well be you. Don’t get me wrong, they know you are their parents and count on you for everything but they also need a role model.
I once had my daughters friends over for a sleepover and was listening to their conversation while getting snacks when they started talking about “who to dress up like”. One said she will like to dress up like “Katy Perry”, another said she prefers “Violetta” ( a Spanish actress) and when it was Silvia (my daughter)’s turn she said “like my mother”. Wow! I was blown away by that, and of course I felt proud. It reminded me of a friend whose daughter wouldn’t go shopping without her mum. She always brags about her mother being a fashionista and will like to wear whatever she recommends. It makes one wonder why at this time and age, a sixteen years old girl is not going along with what her peers think is cool, rather, she is seeking for her mother’s advice.
You develop an amazing bond with your daughter when you do things together, not to mention the fun you have while at it. Do things like;
- Shopping with her. Pick out something lovely together.
- Get your hair and hers done together at the salon.
- Go to the movies together. Watch a movie that she has been longing to see with her.
- Play dress up with her, she could be your stylist for that day.
- Do some school work together. Play the teacher, give her some sums to solve.
- Plan a new recipe. Let her add the spices, and bring things from the fridge to you while you stir the soup and cook together.
- Try new things together and talk about it.
- Find out her opinion about things and always let her express her feelings.
You are not doing these things because you’ve got too much time to spare, you are doing it because you are trying to have a relationship with daughter. Make her trust you and come to you whenever she needs help. If there is a problem, you should be the first person she will want to talk to, not a friend and definitely not some stranger. Remember we love our daughters and want to share a bond with them but do not cross the line. Be the parent, not the friend.
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Be Stylish, Stella.